Goals – Dreams – Plans
We all have them, right? So what stops those who actually reach their success and those who don’t? I find this topic seriously interesting as it just happens to fit into the mold of my work and lifestyle habits.
I’ve worked with clients of all ages, both sexes, all levels and interests. I’ve done my own personal development studies into my own goals and habits. We all have different personalities, moods, energy levels and habits. No one is alike completely – and yet we are all alike more than we imagine.
For example, we all want to change something about ourselves at one point or another, right?
(and if you are a super perfect type person and have never experienced that, I should have a captcha phrase thingy for you to fill in because you’re probably a robot!) 😉
What does it take to make the commitment and stick to the new changes we want to make at any point in our lives? Obviously it takes sacrifice. It takes wanting the change bad enough to stick with the sacrifices that we must make. It means working through areas that can hold us back if we don’t. It means just stepping up and doing it no matter what!
That is the gray area that eludes many of us. We say we really want to achieve success and yet we happily set out on a plan – only to self sabotage ourselves along the way knowing all too well what we are doing.
So why do we do it?
How do we get out of our own way when it seems like we keep stumbling through and not making any real success?
In all honesty, we have to search our past for clues to the behaviors we are working to change.
Do you eat out of emotions? Are you closet drinker? Do you sabotage your success in businesses? Do you have issues with co-workers or bosses? Bottom line; what is your problem, MAN?
For me, I’ve always struggled with emotional eating and binge eating. I would feel guilty and “fat” and then go into the opposite spectrum and seriously restrict calories (500 a day, anyone???); only to repeat the cycle again as my body could not sustain the low calorie range I was imposing upon it.
Once you clarify the issue at hand and decide that you are going to change the results, once and for all; you then must find the root of why the problem exists in the first place.
Now for the “search your past” part. I had to go back; wayyyyyy back to my childhood and find out the core reasons of where this food pattern had begun. What were my earliest memories regarding these issues? What feelings or emotions or memories was I covering up when I would fall into my repetitive and unhealthy cycles? These were the beginning stages of working to heal my problem; not the “food” itself.
Does that make sense? Can you see how this would stop us from actually creating a new change in life when we were still holding on to issues that needed to be dealt withWhat do you remember from your past or your childhood that plagues you or has you running to your current problem? Did you grow up with parents who didn’t know how to show affection? Did you have a overly strict and overbearing parent? Did you endure hardships that were beyond your control and created major imbalances in your psyche? No matter what the underlying issues may be the important thing to keep in mind is that the problem was based on the problem or the person’s problem; not because of YOU.
This is probably the most difficult thing to do before you move to the next step. It is part of our past so it should be dealt with by confirming it happened and then letting it go so we can move forward.
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