Goals. We all have them, right? We have personal goals, financial goals, relationship goals, future goals, weight loss or fitness goals, vacation goals…and so on. The problem is never in the goals that we make; but more in what we are doing or not doing more often when hoping to reach those goals. If you think about it, every decision you make; every second of every day – starts to add up to a result. That result can either be your goal..or the opposite of your goal.
Let me explain.
Imagine for a moment you are opening a new checking account and your goal is to save $10,000 for your next dream vacation. You figured out the costs for your flight; how much your hotel and amenities will cost; what you would need to pay for food, drinks and souvenirs and anything else imaginable. The grand total that you would require is $10k…so you start planning on saving enough money and choosing a date to book your trip for this amazing travel opportunity. Your account is opened, you’ve deposited $100 to start and you set up a direct deposit 10% of each paycheck into your new checking account to save for your trip.
Exciting, isn’t it? That is probably how you feel at the start of every weight loss or fitness goal you set in place. You imagine that you’d love to lose 20 lbs (give or take) in time for a family reunion or summer vacation (or whatever the current reason would be) and you choose a workout program, healthy meal plan with recipes, supplements and support of a trainer so that you can make these goals a reality and succeed and enjoy feeling confident and strong.
This first step of planning and setting in place your ideal progress is the easy part. What becomes a challenge is what follows. Imagine now you are on a road and following a road map. You come to a fork in the road and you see that moving towards the right side of the path will lead you to your goals and dreams; while moving towards the left side of the path will move you in the opposite direction. Even though we know better doesn’t guarantee us results. Sure, we know that if we continue to invest 10% of each paycheck into our new bank account, we will start to see the balance increase over time. We also know that if we are following the advice of our trainer/coach/expert in the workouts needed to reach our goals and the foods and supplements/vitamins – we will eventually see our bodies morph into the shape and size that we were dreaming about.
But that would be too easy, right? In our human minds, we start to rationalize “better ways” or we talk ourselves out of following the plans we’ve set up. Maybe at first for just “one day” – but once we give ourselves permission to go off track, it’s going to be easier to do the next time around. An example would be: maybe you need a pair of new shoes for an event you are attending next week and you are short on cash. You may rationalize that investing maybe just 5% this week and using the remainder to purchase those new shoes won’t hurt us too much, right?
This is where we need to become more focused on WHY we are wanting to create these goals as reality. Why do you want to travel to that exotic destination? What would that feel like? What would it look like? Why is that important today? How about your weight loss or fitness goals? Why are you working to lose 20lbs? What would that look like for you? What would it feel like to be 20 lbs less and feel more confident in your body?
If we don’t dive into our WHY; we won’t stick to the plans. One small detour changes everything. Think about every single decision we all make in a given day. If you are hoping to get up early and workout before you head off to work but you overslept because you were “tired”…it’s important to accept that you made the decision that day to take a step further away from your weight loss goal. The decision to sleep in – was more important to you than the results in that given moment. It may seem insignificant, but over time…those small choices begin to add up to large results.
I know it’s hard at times to stick to our plans, especially when we have a great “excuse” (which we usually refer to as “reason”) but having integrity and sticking to what we said we’d do is key to success. Saving the $10k for your vacation isn’t going to be fun along the way; but you better believe it will be well worth it while you are living it up and lavishing your journey. Same goes for your weight loss goals. It’s never fun to pass up on our favorite foods and drinks when we see others indulging, right? It’s also never fun to workout when we are not feeling like it; or when we are tired, sore and just feeling overwhelmed with life. (but hint; you won’t ever regret the workout once it’s done…but you may regret not following through with it as planned after the fact). However, when you think about the day of the occasion that you can show off your new body and hard earned results..all the sacrifice from before will be water under the bridge.
What decisions have you made just today…that have moved you closer to, as well as further away from your goals and dreams?