Diets don’t work. I’m not even being sarcastic and trying to get your attention with that line. They just do not work.
Think about it, most of the people who are always on a diet are the people who are always struggling with their weight. We tend to blame ourselves when we fall off track; thinking we just needed more willpower.
Seriously? What the heck does being able to keep suffering through starvation and fatigue have to do with willpower? Most diets are based on depriving our bodies from the stuff we love. We get excited to start one of these torture plans in hopes of desperation in getting us out of the misery we find ourselves in. Think about that for a moment. We are literally without hope in times when we turn to a diet. Why else would we choose suffering and misery to fill our days? It’s not helping. Did you know that our diets fail us 95% of the time? What else is there to say?
In the last 100 years or so (maybe many more, in my opinion), dieting has meant suffering; or “die” with a “t”. (ya, that was funny when I was 10 years old too!) We are forced to suffer feeling hungry and miserable in hopes of the number on the scale moving in the downward direction.
But even when we lose the weight; we cannot sustain that amount of torture so we return to our previous habits and where do those lead us? Back to the beginning. We are forced to think of food as just fuel to feed our bodies. It’s def not just that. Food is our comfort and has drug like effects in times that we need it. I believe that in those critical moments, it beats jumping out of a window.
Think about every celebration or gathering you attend. It’s always centered around foods. Imagine how depressing an event would be without food. It would simply be a “meeting” and I’m pretty sure I’d skip out if that were the case. Food has a direct effect on our bodies’ stress hormone levels. Many people I’ve worked with (myself included) use food as comfort in “taking care” of their needs because they need that quick “fix”, much like a drug like effect.
It’s no surprise when you look at the facts that diets are extremely low in calories and definitely not in the realm of being sustainable. The more weight we have to lose, the more of our lives we have to suffer in hopes of achieving our “success”. Are you really willing to permanently change your level of happiness and energy (among other factors) in return for a number on a scale? I’m not and I don’t have to be. Neither do you.
I’ve talked to many people who think that losing weight is hopeless. They tell me they’ve “tried everything” and just can’t seem to reach their goals. I’ve heard claims that the only way someone who is obese can succeed is by using drugs or surgery. This makes me so sad. We are not failing our diets; the diets are failing us.
I will say that those who lose weight and hope to keep every last ounce of it off forever is not possible. What I’ve learned in both my journey of losing 20, 30 and even 70 lbs (this was after my first pregnancy) that it is an ebb and flow of success. While I initially lost the “weight”, when I focused primarily on the number on the scale; I would begin to gain the weight back. It’s when I took the focus off of that stupid machine and put the focus into my own efforts daily that I began to feel better and eventually my weight found it’s happy place. I currently fluctuate about 7 lbs or so and don’t sweat it because I have found my sweet spot.
Losing weight and keeping it off is doable. You can do it too. Instead of criticizing the game players for not scoring in the game, let’s instead fire the coaches and change the rules that are based on silly suffering and deprivation. Let’s learn how to find our own happy range and take initiative in doing what works and enjoying foods we love – on our terms.
Are you ready?
Shoot me an email and let’s chat about setting you up for a personal success story. It’s your choice either way.