Reach your goals – once and for all

What’s the secret to success? I struggled for many years in my desire to achieve my health, fitness and weight loss goals; as well as business, personal and success goals – only to be deterred time and time again. Have you ever struggled before in this way?

I often wondered ‘when do the results finally happen’ and ‘why are there people that we know who continuously achieve their goals while others struggle in their own self-defeating patterns?’

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Now I’m not saying that I am a success story in these areas; but I have learned many lessons over the past 20 or so years and thought it might help someone to hear what’s worked for me.

Think for a moment that exciting feeling when you begin something new. It may seem as though you have the secret to finally figuring it all out and the sky’s the limit in this phase. And why not? At this point of our journey, everything is fresh, new and sparkly (that’s my description but I think you get the point!). It’s at this point when we haven’t yet run into any challenges or encountered any hurdles so it can almost seem a bit skewed from reality. Nonetheless, we set out with our new plans and vow to change our lives; change the world and take on whatever may have held us back in the past.

Everything seems possible in this moment and it’s at this time (whether we are embarking on a new fitness/health journey; starting a new business venture; beginning a new relationship; etc) that we must decide WHY we have chosen this challenge/change. What is so important about these specific goals and what needs to change in our lives at this time in order to make this happen? You may be wondering what any of this has to do with starting something new. The first few steps help to set the foundation for changes and the new success that we so desire. Think for a moment, if we don’t start with the WHY; then what changes from today? If we consider the fact that adding changes; saying ‘yes’ to anything different than what we are currently doing, we will ultimately be saying ‘no’ to other areas of our lives that may or may not be acceptable.

Once the reasons are set and we start moving forward, there will eventually come resistance. We will run into days when we don’t ‘feel’ like doing what we planned; we will run into days when unexpected surprises pop up and we need to juggle and deal with these surprises; we will run into days where we are overly stressed, tired or downright tired of going through the daily motions that seemed exciting in the beginning.

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It’s at this point of resistance that we make a decision; and it’s at this point of our journey that makes or breaks our success in the new plan. If we decide to give in to the resistance and slow down our progress (which usually means we are skipping our workouts/ eating on the fly/ passing on the new habits we set up for our success) then we are deciding that the results are not worth the sacrifice. Right? That’s pretty powerful if you sit and let it sink in. However, if we decide to push through the resistance and do what we planned on doing no matter what; (and this can seriously SUCK some days!) then we are making the decision to continue to fight for what we want to achieve irregardless of the struggle.

Now this part of the journey is actually another critical point that may seem uneventful; maybe even ‘boring’, but it’s going to make the most change of all. Doing what you said you’d do at the times when you don’t feel like it (or enter any excuses you’ve made here…no, they are not “reasons”) will actually be pushing your old bad habits further away. Imagine when you get up to do the workout or eat the meal when you could easily have passed it by because of your “excuses”; you are pushing through boundaries and setting a new “normal” for you to accept. This means that the next time an excuse pops up and you push forward again, you are quite literally, taking steps into unchartered and new success territories. Does that make sense? Because it’s kind of fabulous when you start to “get it” 😉

The last and most crucial next step in forming lifelong habits is in changing old, negative thought patterns about ourselves. Most of us don’t believe that we are “worth” the time, energy, money it takes for us to reach our ultimate goals. If we are constantly berating ourselves; telling ourselves we aren’t worth it, we don’t need it as much as we thought or worse yet; that we are “ugly, stupid, fat, etc”…these are POISON to our results. The negativity we may have learned over the years will keep us stuck in our miserable states because we believe that we are less than anyone else in our lives. This is CRAP and needs to end today! If you have issues that are deep rooted from childhood or past experiences, I suggest searching for a reputable therapist to help you get beyond those issues. If your issues are simply from habits that you’ve created, it’s time to change your mindset and surround yourself with positive people, books, audio and lessons to create a better quality of self-acceptance and love.

The New Decade Begins!!

Knowing that when you put these practices into place, you will not only achieve new results..you will become obsessed with them because they feel fantastic! You are a beautiful, blessed and unique YOU and it’s time to take back your happiness and start to believe in yourself – once and for all. Do this, and the rest will start to fall into place. You will become the type of person whom you’ve always felt was “lucky” or “entitled”.

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Choose to live a happy life!

How would you describe yourself to others?

Would you be complimentary with your words about yourself?

Would you describe yourself as you would a best friend?

Or would you describe yourself  “less than” average and apologize for your shortcomings?

Most of us would fit the latter personalities. Why do we have such low self esteem and acceptance of ourselves?

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It can be a challenge to love ourselves and to to be our own biggest cheerleaders, right? It took me years to finally be proud of the person I am and take care of myself as I know I deserve. The more that I accept myself and think kindly of myself; the better I become at setting the time aside to workout and eat right! The standards are set much higher if we believe in our best selves.

I used to compare myself to everyone around me. People I knew; people I saw but didn’t know; people in magazines and on t.v, friends, family and just anyone who I could conjure up at any given moment.

The problem with what I was doing was that I compared myself unfairly and in unrealistic terms. These comparisons were always unattainable and only served to make me feel “less than” and “not quite good enough”. Not surprisingly, this left me with low self confidence and self worth.

When we feel this low about ourselves, our abilities and our accomplishments; it’s not uncommon to self sabotage.

Overeating, anxiety, depression; are just a few examples of what happens when we put extreme levels of pressure on being someone or something that is never possible.

We all know that “perfect” doesn’t exist and yet we are guilty of beating ourselves up constantly for NOT being “perfect”.

What?

Before I started my at-home business as a Beachbody coach, I fought to find time and balance in my life. As a busy, working mother; I was always running from one task to the next. Getting everything done in the time I had set for myself was nearly impossible but for whatever reason, I felt it my duty to complete or else beat myself up for failing to do so.

I had three young children, a husband and too many items on my “to do” list. Even with an assistant, these unreasonable tasks I had placed on myself could not be done in the time expected from myself. I would not put this much pressure on my best friend…and yet, like most of the women I know who suffer from these same issues; we expect we are super-human.

In response to dealing with the strains and expectations (which ultimately fed my “failure” mentality), I would then have a food-binge to deal with the stress. I then would fall into the cycle of feeling depressed about my lack of self control and willpower which lead to believing I was a complete loser. Depression, anxiety and negative body images were some of the results of this self-defeating process. Can you relate?

It helps to know that we are not alone and there is always a way. Finding support and balance is key. Staying on track and learning how to pick back up again when we fall down (which will happen along the way); is key to overcoming the issues of our past. There are so many things that we have no control over in life; yet, we allow them to affect us negatively anyway. What gives?

Have you ever been guilty of one or more of these issues:

Wondering what other people think of you? Wondering how other people get to live like they do and believing you have “less than” everyone around you? Wondering why you are “stuck” in a situation when others seem to be living so much “happier” and with less stress than you do? Wonder why others can look and feel so good about themselves; when you feel completely exhausted and unable to keep up with the demands of day to day life? Wonder why you can’t get yourself “together”? Wish you had a job as successful and joyous as “others” do? Wish you made as much money as others? Wish that your cars were as nice as others you are watching? Wish that your home or the location of your home was as nice as someone else? Wish you had better education or success as someone else?

and on and on this list can go.

There are no end to comparisons. What we do not realize, however, is that while we sit and wonder about all of these “happier and more successful” people we are comparing our lives to…there are many others who are doing the same with us.

Don’t think it’s true? Well, you’d be wrong! There will always be someone who feels less valuable than you do. There will always be others who feel like they have less than you do. There will be others who wonder what you have and how you do what you do for your life.

Comparing ourselves to anyone else only makes us feel insecure, miserable, frustrated, depressed, “not good enough” and we feel that we cannot be happy with the things that we have right now. We feel we can’t be “happy” until we reach some magical goal or milestone. This is definitely not the way to life our best lives.

Since I work on my own now, I have to work on myself too. I read books, listen to audio, watch videos, listen to trainings…and what I’ve learned is that we are all very much alike in most ways. We deal with similar issues. We struggle in similar ways. No matter where we are or who we are; we will not be satisfied unless we learn to be thankful for all that we have.

Life is a journey and it has many ups and downs and it’s a process. I believe it’s important to learn how to be happy and be grateful for everything we have right now even if we haven’t reached our ultimate “goal” yet.

Striving to be like someone else or look like someone else is never attainable. Striving to be our best and using others as motivation is fine as long as they’re someone who has done something similar to you, or has a similar body to you.

We need to be responsible for ourselves; how we choose to live, what we choose to do and who we choose to use as “inspiration”, “motivation” or as a “role model”.

There will always be external influences that have the potential to destroy our self worth if we allow them to. This is why I believe that many issues we have are internal. If someone or something is making you feel bad or causes you to have low self esteem then it’s important to have a look at what could be causing it – most of the time it is coming from within.

My goal for my life now as a role model in my family; a leader in my team and an inspiration to others whom I don’t even know yet, is to be positive and reach as many people as possible so that I can help deliver this message of hope and acceptance to everyone. I also want my team and my family to do the same for others in their lives. It starts with us. We can empower others and we can help them to share the same message with others. It’s not an easy task but it’s what has become my passion and I know it’s worth the efforts indeed.

The biggest accomplishment in my life is self love and if I can somehow help others achieve this then I’m going to do it and I won’t stop no matter what!

Self worth and self love can only be achieved from within, it can’t be gained from others.

Everything we choose to do should be from a place of LOVE, not hate. I love myself and my body so I choose to exercise and eat healthy so I can be my best and feel my best. I want others to feel this way too – however that’s achieved because we’re all different and what makes me happy is different for someone else.

Love who you are now and realize that this is a process and the goal is to ultimately be HAPPY – whether you exercise and eat healthy food or not…. you should always do things that make you happy, not what you think will please others.

It’s not about “perfection”, it’s not about comparison, it’s not about being ‘the best” – it’s about doing my best and being “my best”, and loving everything that I am – flaws and all. – This is what makes us human and unique after all!

Who’s with me? Share this message if you care ❤

xoxo

Get off the scale and lose weight

Ok, ladies!! Listen up!!! 👂🏻

I hear too many of you focus just on the scale!! Heck, I used to be guilty of that too! 😳😳

But here’s the reality, the scale is not telling us the whole story. We cannot tell how fit or healthy we truly are by the number it reflects. Have you ever weighed yourself multiple times in one day and actually believed that your weight fluctuated that quickly? Me too!

I remember when I would wake up in the morning, hop on the scale. Then I’d feel happy or sad, depending on the number that was reflected on the machine.

I’d go without eating as long as I could possibly handle, and then eat something “small” and “good” by making sure it was low-fat, low-carb, low-calorie and obviously low nutrition! And back to the scale once again, to see what the “damage” was. I mean, seriously? It was really that ridiculous…and I’m not even telling the whole story.

The point of this story is that too many of us live and breathe, eat and feel…based on a silly number that is not reflecting our “weight” only. There are so many fluctuations within our bodies on a given day and I actually used to believe that if the scale said I was “up” five pounds in the course of a day…I really did get upset that I gained 5 lbs that day!

How could one person gain 5 lbs in one day? It’s just impossible. But haven’t you thought the same thing before too? And then what do we do? We decide we need to get serious and start a restrictive and temporary “diet” plan and exercise program to help us get back down to a number we can feel better about. This is not healthy and it is not living.

When I was 15 years old, I lost over 20 lbs with the Weight Watchers program and felt proud of myself for following a strict food plan and adding in some simple exercise, as I never did much in terms of activity before! (believe it or not) I remember standing in line every week to get weighed in.

Already a humiliating experience, I must say.

As I approached the scale, I would hand the employee my “weigh in card” and she would quickly glance at the previous week’s number to compare with the current weight. It was quite common for the weigher to look up at me in surprise and say, “You don’t LOOK like you weight that much!”

Was that comment supposed to make me feel better about myself? I mean, why would anyone say those words to a teenager, no less? I would ramble on how my body is denser than most and quickly deal with the awful experience of watching them write down my “new” number and add or subtract from last week’s number to tell me how “good” or how “bad” I had been.

I despise diets and I despise the scale. Look to be honest, I’ve always hid the number I weigh because I felt embarrassed by it. When you’re told, repeatedly that you don’t look to weigh as much as you weigh…what does that do to your psyche? It hurt each time just a little bit more.

Now I am proud of my number. I am proud of the work I do to take care of my health…not the number on the scale. I don’t even weigh myself unless I am curious and need to chart it every so often for my program results. I rely mostly on the feeling of my clothes, the measurements done monthly and my pictures to compare. That’s it. And you know what? It works!! I focus on my strengths; how much longer I could last in a workout; how many more reps I could complete; and so on. These are true successes…not that number.

The best tip? Get on a proven plan, eat right most days, get in a nutritional dense supplement, stop feeding your emotions, start taking control of your life and start living with passion!!

I used to be embarrassed to share my weight. Why??? Anyone could simply look at me and see what I look like…so why would  number on a machine need to stay secret? Why do we protect the number on our driver’s license? Why would we care if that number changed over the years? It’s like we aren’t dealing with reality. Would knowing that number on the scale make me a better or less better person?

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I don’t think so and I know you don’t think so either.

What defines you? If you think for a minute it’s about the scale, we need to have another conversation. and for the record, I weigh 150 lbs…

But I’ve heard I don’t look it 😉

Finding Time for Fitness

It’s amazing how much more efficient we can get with technology and multi-tasking in our lives; and yet we seem to have less time than ever. What is that about? I find that the better I get at organizing and getting things done; the more I actually do and less time is left after all has been said and done.

And it’s not just ME, I am hearing this common issue from so many women these days. We are so busy taking care of everyone else that we tend to overlook our needs and goals. Then one day, we “wake up” and wonder what the heck happened and why are we feeling so neglected and out of touch with ourselves?

There is nothing wrong with setting some time aside to take care of what we really want to do. And it it should actually be a NON-NEGOTIABLE practice to take care of our health and fitness. If we don’t, who will? It’s easy to overlook the fact of eating the freshest and most natural foods; and getting in some daily activity to help our goals and bodies run their best and stay strong and happy along the journey.

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But who has time for long workouts these days? The days seem to start off with a bang the moment we drag ourselves out of bed and don’t slow down or stop until we fall into bed, completely exhausted.

But what will that do for us in 10, 20, 30 years from now? What are the long term effects of running on empty and not taking the time to keep ourselves humming along through these years? They will pass either way; isn’t it a better idea to take hold of what you can do NOW instead of that elusive time called “ONE DAY”??

I know there are no shortcuts to getting fit and being healthy. It takes proper attention and the best care. To get a lean and toned body, you need to be consistent and willing to do the work that makes the changes. But what do we do about those times when life gets hectic, (like most of the time?), when the “to-do” lists begin to pile up and all of a sudden you realize that you’ve missed out on another entire week of getting started. Trust me, we all have been there at one time or another. I can definitely relate. Which is why I’m going to share some simple tips to start right now and add into your daily routine, that will help start you and keep you on track to reaching your goals.

Short on time during your day, too? Here you go! 😉

1. All you need is “10 minutes”…
If the idea of heading to the gym or completing an hour long workout is not going to work, consider doing 10 minute fitness bursts throughout your day. You know you can find a spare 10 minutes, especially during your lunch time break. I find that it’s really amazing how many calories you can rack up in a short amount of time if done right. In order to really torch some calories, you need to get your heart rate up. Consider doing HIIT type workouts…which stands for “HIGH INTENSITY INTERVAL TRAINING”. So give it just 10 minutes but give it all that you’ve got. If you need an idea, here is a short workout for you to try now..

2. Let’s get “sneaky” about some extra cardio…
You don’t need to go for an hour run to get cardio into your day. Look at ways you can add small amounts of cardio in, that will add up over time. Park your car further away in the parking lot, take the stairs instead of the elevator, and get up and walk around when you are talking on your phone. These are all small changes you can add into your daily routine, so that although they may not feel like much, they are a great way to burn more calories, without committing to hours on that boring treadmill.

3. Do super sets…
One of my favorite and most effective ways to get the most out of your workouts, is to start adding in supersets with your weight training. This is one training technique done in many of our workouts with Beachbody and I’ve noticed that Sagi def adds it throughout his Body Beast plan. Not sure how to do a superset? You simply pick a muscle group that you want to work on, and then do a few different exercises for that muscle group, with little or no rest in between.

For example, if you want to work your legs, you could start with deadlifts, weighted squats and dumbbell walking lunges. Once you have gone through one round of exercises, repeat it a few more times. Not only do supersets cut your workout time down, they also keep the intensity levels high which help you to burn your calories and fat from your body.

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All levels are welcome and encouraged. This is not a “quick fix”; it’s about learning lifestyle behaviors and working around common issues that can keep us from achieving our biggest goals and dreams. They truly will change your life.

Who Wants ABS? (or maybe I should just ask who doesn’t to weed out the non-committed folks!) :)

IMG_0953This is for all the beautiful people who have been dreaming and wishing and hoping to one day have a sexy midsection! Is that YOU?? I am pretty sure it’s most of the population! LOL

When it comes to creating incredible abs, even the most effective workout programs can only bring you so far. That’s because you can’t get a flat, hard midsection without losing body fat. No matter how much effort you put into creating a six-pack, no one’s going to see it if it’s covered by a layer of flab.

Seriously, I know! I’ve worked out so intensely and so often that if this was a proven method, I’d have had a six pack for most of you reading this today! 😉  But, alas, foods are the KEY to getting those abs to POP!

If you’re following the dietary guidelines of a fitness program, you’ll automatically be eating the right foods to lose fat as you get in shape. But the following seven principles can give you an extra edge, and will help ensure that the effort you’re putting into your abs will bring you the results you want.

1. Get plenty of protein
Eating enough lean protein promotes fat loss and muscle gain, the two most important elements for developing great abs. It also helps keep you from getting hungry while you’re eating right. You don’t have to gobble down 12-ounce steaks—just eat a normal portion of lean meat, fish, low-fat dairy, or vegetarian protein with every meal, and make sure your snacks contain some protein, too. If you still have a hard time getting enough in your diet, a daily Shakeology shake can be a perfect addition.

By the way, protein is especially important in the morning, when a lot of people don’t get as much as they should. A protein-rich breakfast will help keep your blood sugar steady for hours, preventing the dips that can lead to cravings later in the day. (Try some low-fat chicken sausage, or an omelet with one whole egg and three egg whites, along with fruit or whole-grain toast.) Tell me how much protein do YOU get each day? I see and talk with so many women who DON’T bcuz they think it will “bulk” them up….

NOT! Get that protein in yo face asap! 😉

2.Reconsider your carbs.
Despite the popularity of low-carbohydrate diets, the average American meal is still too high in sugar and fast-burning starches to bring body fat down to ab-baring levels. It’s time to say goodbye to sweetened soda, ditch the Doritos, and save the cake for your birthday. DUH!  If your fitness plan calls for a sports drink before a long cardio workout, or a carb-and-protein recovery drink after resistance training, that’s fine. But the rest of the time, stick with foods that are on the low end of the glycemic index (refer to GlycemicIndex.com for more information)—these foods burn more slowly, so they won’t spike your blood sugar and insulin levels.

3. Have fun with fiber.
Something about the word “fiber” just doesn’t sound appetizing. But high-fiber foods can actually be quite delicious: fresh berries and other fruits, salads loaded with colorful produce, your favorite steamed vegetables or vegetable soup, stews or chili made with beans, chewy whole-grain breads and cereals…You get the picture. (These foods just happen to be loaded with nutrients as well.) High-fiber foods keep you fuller with fewer calories, and they help keep your digestive system working at its best—a double-whammy for getting rid of belly bulge. And “double-whammy” is such a fun word to use that I encourage you to try it out a few times this week!

4. Enjoy some yogurt.
Probiotics, the healthful bacteria found in yogurt and other fermented foods, have been proven to help reduce belly fat. In a recent study in Finland, new mothers who took probiotic supplements averaged smaller waist circumferences—and lower body fat in general—than those who didn’t take probiotic supplements. And while the topic is still controversial, studies have found that eating lots of calcium-rich dairy foods like yogurt may increase overall weight loss. It’s why I eat Greek yogurt and drink my Shakeology DAILY!!

5. Don’t forget to eat.
Tempted to lower your daily calorie count by skipping meals? Don’t. Seriously, I cannot tell you how many women tell me that they don’t know why they aren’t losing weight; since they only eat maybe 1 time a day!!! EXCUSE MOI??????

Going hungry can raise your levels of the stress-related hormone cortisol, which research has found can increase belly fat even in otherwise thin women. And eating too infrequently can lower your metabolism and energy levels, while increasing the chance that you’ll get too hungry and decide to chuck your meal plan entirely. If you’re eating the right foods, regular meals and snacks will keep your body fueled while you’re working toward that strong core. You MUST eat!!! It’s the ONLY way! 😉

6. Drink more fluids. Hydration is important when you’re on a fitness plan, but drinking plenty of water has particular benefits for your midsection. It helps keep your stomach full, so you don’t overeat, and it helps flush out excess sodium to prevent belly bloating. (Eating more potassium-rich foods, such as tomatoes and bananas, will also help in this area.) Plain ol’ H20 can’t be beat, but you can also switch it up with flavored waters, iced tea, and anything else you like to drink that isn’t full of sweeteners. How much do you need? The old rule of 8 glasses a day is a good start, but everyone is different: drink more if you’re exercising or it’s hot out, and drink less if you’re running to the bathroom every 5 minutes.  I will challenge you to drink the recommended amount for fit individuals; 1/2 your body weight in ounces!! So for someone who is 150 lbs; they would need to drink at least 75 oz of water every day! Or a gallon if you are really up to the challenge!

7. …With two exceptions.
It’s time to cut down on those mood-altering substances, coffee and alcohol. Too much caffeine raises your cortisol levels and can impair your sleep, which can lower the production of fitness-promoting hormones. Meanwhile, the proverbial “beer belly” isn’t just the result of extra calories—alcohol actually makes it more difficult for your body to metabolize carbs and fat. Booze also stimulates your appetite and lowers your inhibitions, which can lead to bingeing. The best road to flat abs is no alcohol at all, but if you really like a drink now and then, just have one at a time (and no more than a few a week), and stay away from higher-calorie beers and sugary mixed drinks. Something to seriously consider especially over the weekends, am I right or am I right? (you are SO smart! lol)

If you add these rules to your fitness plan, you’re sure to see faster improvements in your midsection. Of course, there’s an added bonus to eating this way: it’ll keep you healthier, too. That may not be as big an inducement as great abs, but that’s just  for free.

Do you need an added incentive? I have a BUSY MOM’S support group starting first of the month and welcome you to message me today for info on joining. You can succeed and have time for your family AND save money along the way! All thrown in for extra bonus!! 😉

Email me at: http://www.spazzykay@gmail.com

Are You Struggling Today?

It’s amazing to me when I hear people assume that if you don’t complain or talk about your struggles; that you must no have any.

BULL!!! 

Our struggles are our stories!!! Embrace them and learn to grow from them.  That is your message to the world around you.

In keeping with today’s topic; I will share some of mine…

I am a very happily married woman of almost 20 years to my amazing hubby.  Do you think that it’s been bliss ever since the day we said, “I Do”???

FAR FROM IT!!!

…and to those of you who are, or have been married know that it would have been a complete lie for me to say otherwise.

We started out as your average “happy” young couple with dreams of a family life, successes, growing in our faith and many blessings.

While I can’t say we aren’t enjoying all of these today, it sure has not been “easy” in any respect.

Which reminds me of a joke my son told us this summer;

“Why did the washing machine stop working?…. Somebody threw the towel in…”

=D =D =D

We all have struggles and if we stick with what needs to be done consistently; we can work our ways through them and come out stronger than ever. This doesn’t mean it’s a great idea to complain to everyone around you or share all over social media about your issues…

Because there is such a thing as an “unfollow” button and that will get pressed if you make complaining a habit. Instead, act as though everything is going great and your reality will become so. You have more power over your progress and success than you know.

My point is that although life has had it’s share of ups and downs for us, we never gave up. We kept refocusing on helping each other and moving forward in the best way we could understand at the time. There is no fairy tale life. There is no perfection for anyone. I know we will continue to have our struggles but without them, we wouldn’t be as happy and as strong as we are today. My hubby is my best friend and I know he has my back just as much as I do, his.

But you have to get a little bit (sometimes, a LOT) uncomfortable before you feel proud of where you’ve come from…

Let’s focus in on the happy parts of today!

Are You Living in YOUR Moments?

Funny how fast time flies by, don’t you think?

I find that the more I think I have it all together, the harder life laughs at me and changes the scenery!

You know you agree! 😉

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Anyway, yes, my daughter has now graduated from high school, after fighting through the last part of this past year. A funny story she shared with us about our two overseas moves in the last five years (for those of you unfamiliar with my story; yes, this happened and a big reason my daughter was so far behind in her schooling this final year!); was when one of her teachers asked the senior students to write out some advice tips for the incoming Freshmen class. (how freaking cool is that teacher, by the way??)

My daughter (bless her sarcastic heart; she may just take after her mum after all!) wrote the following advice: “Make good friends and get ahead on your credits and grades because you never know if your family may move overseas.”

okay, I thought it was hilarious…you may not agree but it’s all good!

I find that life can really turn your world upside down and then give you a good shaking still from time to time. Have you ever experienced this before? (hint: if you’re ALIVE and actually doing something in your life, then this is a given)

There is no way around it or out of it but you darned sure better move your ass and give it your much needed attention! I think it’s at these times in our lives that we are most vulnerable and need to really be vigilant about who we surround ourselves with. Your attitude about your situation (whatever they may be; big or small) will weigh heavily on the side of the attitudes around you. Don’t believe it? Think about the 5 people you are closest to in your life. Now, think about their temperaments and points of views on life and all things in it. Then go ahead and try to tell me you don’t see eye to eye or believe most of the same, yourself.

Whether you realize this or not; it’s a fact. Maybe you’re the exception to this rule…but I highly doubt it!

My advice to you today is to surround yourself with positive people and teachings. Read Personal Development books to help you grow exponentially. Get out and do some activity to boost your heartrate. Lift weights to strengthen your weak areas. Learn to laugh at yourself in times of stress. Be the best person you could be for today.

Trust me; life goes by regardless.

You may as well feel happier and enjoy the ride.