You’ve been here before. A new year staring at you with a blank slate.
The opportunity for anything you choose.
But chances are you’ve been motivated before to change our habits. Chances are you’ve been inspired to start a plan or better your life or whatever it was that has been important to you along your journey.
And yet, something happens along the way. You stop. You can’t really pinpoint when that happens but it does. And you become defeated by stopping, yet again and then tell yourself stories that you are not strong. You believe the voices in your head that whisper you are weak, you’ve failed so many times and you just don’t have what it takes to succeed.
I call B.S.
Hello! It’s been awhile! In case you’ve never seen my blog posts before, my name is Kathy and I’m a fitness coach, fitness trainer and all around fitness and health obsessed nut. I love challenges and my mission is to empower women over the age of 30 to take control of their body, their mind and their freaking lives – once and for all.
You’ve been a victim for much too long and it’s time to take control of your success.
In this first day of the new year, I want to talk about going deeper into our goals. We typically go shallow.
For example, you have most likely set basic outcome goals like, “I want to lose 25 lbs”.
Ok, great. And then what?
I want to look thinner.
Ok great and then what?
I want to be healthy…and then what?
That’s good, you say. That should do it.
I’ll then ask you if you were to lose 25lbs, look thinner (which would obviously be a fact after losing the weight) and healthy (which means nothing in reality because it’s not specific)…you will be happy?
Yes, you repeat.
POOF! Your wish is granted. Instantly, you are 25 lbs lighter, looking thinner and feeling healthy.
Then just as fast as it’s gone, it reappears.
What is this? you demand. How could this weight be gone and then reappear almost instantly?
It’s not magic, it’s what most dieters repeat, year after year. And over time, they end up growing larger and more unhealthy over time.
Why does this happen? Not because it’s your fault, I want to assure you, but because the goal wasn’t specific enough and the learned behaviors didn’t get to stick.
You see, we like instant.
Instant messaging; instant pots; instant results.
The problem with instant is that nothing is learned. There is no growth or knowledge gained. So ultimately, with the instant mindset, there is no long term success or change.
Success in this new year isn’t going to be about what you want to achieve. Why? Because when we reach a goal, it isn’t the outcome that makes us feel happy and successful.
That happy and successful comes from us waking up every darn day and completing what we say we are going to complete and then seeing our goals appear over time because we are doing the work.
If you start to enjoy eating good foods that you like and you do it every day this coming year; and then you also start to workout every week because you want to become stronger and stop stopping. So you workout every week for the next 52 weeks. You do these not because you have a goal of losing 25 lbs (cuz that goal won’t last, I promise you that!) but because you start to look forward to your workout sessions because of how they are making you feel about yourself. You are growing stronger. You are feeling more energetic and you are starting to become more confident in your abilities. Then what happens as the months go by? You obviously lose weight. You become healthier and you start to change the shape of your body and your life.
Success comes because you are now putting in the reps. Do you see why a quick instant diet solution is the complete opposite of this? Do you believe you have what it takes to become more in the new year? Share your goals below…