Are You Struggling Today?

It’s amazing to me when I hear people assume that if you don’t complain or talk about your struggles; that you must no have any.

BULL!!! 

Our struggles are our stories!!! Embrace them and learn to grow from them.  That is your message to the world around you.

In keeping with today’s topic; I will share some of mine…

I am a very happily married woman of almost 20 years to my amazing hubby.  Do you think that it’s been bliss ever since the day we said, “I Do”???

FAR FROM IT!!!

…and to those of you who are, or have been married know that it would have been a complete lie for me to say otherwise.

We started out as your average “happy” young couple with dreams of a family life, successes, growing in our faith and many blessings.

While I can’t say we aren’t enjoying all of these today, it sure has not been “easy” in any respect.

Which reminds me of a joke my son told us this summer;

“Why did the washing machine stop working?…. Somebody threw the towel in…”

=D =D =D

We all have struggles and if we stick with what needs to be done consistently; we can work our ways through them and come out stronger than ever. This doesn’t mean it’s a great idea to complain to everyone around you or share all over social media about your issues…

Because there is such a thing as an “unfollow” button and that will get pressed if you make complaining a habit. Instead, act as though everything is going great and your reality will become so. You have more power over your progress and success than you know.

My point is that although life has had it’s share of ups and downs for us, we never gave up. We kept refocusing on helping each other and moving forward in the best way we could understand at the time. There is no fairy tale life. There is no perfection for anyone. I know we will continue to have our struggles but without them, we wouldn’t be as happy and as strong as we are today. My hubby is my best friend and I know he has my back just as much as I do, his.

But you have to get a little bit (sometimes, a LOT) uncomfortable before you feel proud of where you’ve come from…

Let’s focus in on the happy parts of today!

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Stuck on Auto-Repeat….

Quick!!!  When was the last time you did something that you’ve never done before?  Wasn’t this an exciting part of our childhoods?  We would plan and dream up the next wonderful experience to take on and feel as though we were on top of the world!                        998328_10201447117250736_1568727953_n

When did this end?  Why does “growing up” mean “become complacent”?  I don’t think that we plan to just go through our daily motions; day in and day out.  Just like your shampoo bottle’s directions; later, rinse and repeat.  And so our life goes…

But it doesn’t have to stay this way.  You could actually step out of your comfort zones and do something brand new!!  Think back at how exciting and nerve wracking you felt when taking on a new experience.  Your heart beats faster.  You get a bit nervous and tingly. You fret about what it will entail and what could go wrong.  But it’s all exciting!!!

We need to LIVE, for crying out loud!   But how do we do this; when it’s so foreign to our lives?

Let’s start with a quick practice that takes about 3 minutes (you DO have 3 minutes for this, don’t you??)

Get out a piece of paper and pen/pencil and draw a line down the middle.

On the left side, write down all the things you would like to “start doing”.  Don’t get caught up in logistics and dilemmas; just write down as many as you can in a minute’s time.

On the right side, list all of the things that you’d like to STOP doing. You know, like “stop eating sweets late at night”; “stop complaining to your spouse/friends”; stop watching tv in the evenings”, etc.

Now, just start with an item on your list and start or stop that chosen task NOW.  Keep adding to your list and make sure to choose at least ONE of the listed items every single day.

For example, START; walking a mile every day, STOP; texting in your car…etc.

Doesn’t that sound invigorating?  I think you will be pleasantly surprised at the sheer joy it brings into your life.  I don’t doubt that you will be more energetic because of this.  I bet that your brain starts to generate new and exciting ideas and plans because of this.

What do you say?  In order to get something you’ve never had before; you’ve got to do something you’ve never DONE before!!

Got it?  Get it!