Choose to live a happy life!

How would you describe yourself to others?

Would you be complimentary with your words about yourself?

Would you describe yourself as you would a best friend?

Or would you describe yourself  “less than” average and apologize for your shortcomings?

Most of us would fit the latter personalities. Why do we have such low self esteem and acceptance of ourselves?

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It can be a challenge to love ourselves and to to be our own biggest cheerleaders, right? It took me years to finally be proud of the person I am and take care of myself as I know I deserve. The more that I accept myself and think kindly of myself; the better I become at setting the time aside to workout and eat right! The standards are set much higher if we believe in our best selves.

I used to compare myself to everyone around me. People I knew; people I saw but didn’t know; people in magazines and on t.v, friends, family and just anyone who I could conjure up at any given moment.

The problem with what I was doing was that I compared myself unfairly and in unrealistic terms. These comparisons were always unattainable and only served to make me feel “less than” and “not quite good enough”. Not surprisingly, this left me with low self confidence and self worth.

When we feel this low about ourselves, our abilities and our accomplishments; it’s not uncommon to self sabotage.

Overeating, anxiety, depression; are just a few examples of what happens when we put extreme levels of pressure on being someone or something that is never possible.

We all know that “perfect” doesn’t exist and yet we are guilty of beating ourselves up constantly for NOT being “perfect”.

What?

Before I started my at-home business as a Beachbody coach, I fought to find time and balance in my life. As a busy, working mother; I was always running from one task to the next. Getting everything done in the time I had set for myself was nearly impossible but for whatever reason, I felt it my duty to complete or else beat myself up for failing to do so.

I had three young children, a husband and too many items on my “to do” list. Even with an assistant, these unreasonable tasks I had placed on myself could not be done in the time expected from myself. I would not put this much pressure on my best friend…and yet, like most of the women I know who suffer from these same issues; we expect we are super-human.

In response to dealing with the strains and expectations (which ultimately fed my “failure” mentality), I would then have a food-binge to deal with the stress. I then would fall into the cycle of feeling depressed about my lack of self control and willpower which lead to believing I was a complete loser. Depression, anxiety and negative body images were some of the results of this self-defeating process. Can you relate?

It helps to know that we are not alone and there is always a way. Finding support and balance is key. Staying on track and learning how to pick back up again when we fall down (which will happen along the way); is key to overcoming the issues of our past. There are so many things that we have no control over in life; yet, we allow them to affect us negatively anyway. What gives?

Have you ever been guilty of one or more of these issues:

Wondering what other people think of you? Wondering how other people get to live like they do and believing you have “less than” everyone around you? Wondering why you are “stuck” in a situation when others seem to be living so much “happier” and with less stress than you do? Wonder why others can look and feel so good about themselves; when you feel completely exhausted and unable to keep up with the demands of day to day life? Wonder why you can’t get yourself “together”? Wish you had a job as successful and joyous as “others” do? Wish you made as much money as others? Wish that your cars were as nice as others you are watching? Wish that your home or the location of your home was as nice as someone else? Wish you had better education or success as someone else?

and on and on this list can go.

There are no end to comparisons. What we do not realize, however, is that while we sit and wonder about all of these “happier and more successful” people we are comparing our lives to…there are many others who are doing the same with us.

Don’t think it’s true? Well, you’d be wrong! There will always be someone who feels less valuable than you do. There will always be others who feel like they have less than you do. There will be others who wonder what you have and how you do what you do for your life.

Comparing ourselves to anyone else only makes us feel insecure, miserable, frustrated, depressed, “not good enough” and we feel that we cannot be happy with the things that we have right now. We feel we can’t be “happy” until we reach some magical goal or milestone. This is definitely not the way to life our best lives.

Since I work on my own now, I have to work on myself too. I read books, listen to audio, watch videos, listen to trainings…and what I’ve learned is that we are all very much alike in most ways. We deal with similar issues. We struggle in similar ways. No matter where we are or who we are; we will not be satisfied unless we learn to be thankful for all that we have.

Life is a journey and it has many ups and downs and it’s a process. I believe it’s important to learn how to be happy and be grateful for everything we have right now even if we haven’t reached our ultimate “goal” yet.

Striving to be like someone else or look like someone else is never attainable. Striving to be our best and using others as motivation is fine as long as they’re someone who has done something similar to you, or has a similar body to you.

We need to be responsible for ourselves; how we choose to live, what we choose to do and who we choose to use as “inspiration”, “motivation” or as a “role model”.

There will always be external influences that have the potential to destroy our self worth if we allow them to. This is why I believe that many issues we have are internal. If someone or something is making you feel bad or causes you to have low self esteem then it’s important to have a look at what could be causing it – most of the time it is coming from within.

My goal for my life now as a role model in my family; a leader in my team and an inspiration to others whom I don’t even know yet, is to be positive and reach as many people as possible so that I can help deliver this message of hope and acceptance to everyone. I also want my team and my family to do the same for others in their lives. It starts with us. We can empower others and we can help them to share the same message with others. It’s not an easy task but it’s what has become my passion and I know it’s worth the efforts indeed.

The biggest accomplishment in my life is self love and if I can somehow help others achieve this then I’m going to do it and I won’t stop no matter what!

Self worth and self love can only be achieved from within, it can’t be gained from others.

Everything we choose to do should be from a place of LOVE, not hate. I love myself and my body so I choose to exercise and eat healthy so I can be my best and feel my best. I want others to feel this way too – however that’s achieved because we’re all different and what makes me happy is different for someone else.

Love who you are now and realize that this is a process and the goal is to ultimately be HAPPY – whether you exercise and eat healthy food or not…. you should always do things that make you happy, not what you think will please others.

It’s not about “perfection”, it’s not about comparison, it’s not about being ‘the best” – it’s about doing my best and being “my best”, and loving everything that I am – flaws and all. – This is what makes us human and unique after all!

Who’s with me? Share this message if you care ❤

xoxo

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Who Wants ABS? (or maybe I should just ask who doesn’t to weed out the non-committed folks!) :)

IMG_0953This is for all the beautiful people who have been dreaming and wishing and hoping to one day have a sexy midsection! Is that YOU?? I am pretty sure it’s most of the population! LOL

When it comes to creating incredible abs, even the most effective workout programs can only bring you so far. That’s because you can’t get a flat, hard midsection without losing body fat. No matter how much effort you put into creating a six-pack, no one’s going to see it if it’s covered by a layer of flab.

Seriously, I know! I’ve worked out so intensely and so often that if this was a proven method, I’d have had a six pack for most of you reading this today! 😉  But, alas, foods are the KEY to getting those abs to POP!

If you’re following the dietary guidelines of a fitness program, you’ll automatically be eating the right foods to lose fat as you get in shape. But the following seven principles can give you an extra edge, and will help ensure that the effort you’re putting into your abs will bring you the results you want.

1. Get plenty of protein
Eating enough lean protein promotes fat loss and muscle gain, the two most important elements for developing great abs. It also helps keep you from getting hungry while you’re eating right. You don’t have to gobble down 12-ounce steaks—just eat a normal portion of lean meat, fish, low-fat dairy, or vegetarian protein with every meal, and make sure your snacks contain some protein, too. If you still have a hard time getting enough in your diet, a daily Shakeology shake can be a perfect addition.

By the way, protein is especially important in the morning, when a lot of people don’t get as much as they should. A protein-rich breakfast will help keep your blood sugar steady for hours, preventing the dips that can lead to cravings later in the day. (Try some low-fat chicken sausage, or an omelet with one whole egg and three egg whites, along with fruit or whole-grain toast.) Tell me how much protein do YOU get each day? I see and talk with so many women who DON’T bcuz they think it will “bulk” them up….

NOT! Get that protein in yo face asap! 😉

2.Reconsider your carbs.
Despite the popularity of low-carbohydrate diets, the average American meal is still too high in sugar and fast-burning starches to bring body fat down to ab-baring levels. It’s time to say goodbye to sweetened soda, ditch the Doritos, and save the cake for your birthday. DUH!  If your fitness plan calls for a sports drink before a long cardio workout, or a carb-and-protein recovery drink after resistance training, that’s fine. But the rest of the time, stick with foods that are on the low end of the glycemic index (refer to GlycemicIndex.com for more information)—these foods burn more slowly, so they won’t spike your blood sugar and insulin levels.

3. Have fun with fiber.
Something about the word “fiber” just doesn’t sound appetizing. But high-fiber foods can actually be quite delicious: fresh berries and other fruits, salads loaded with colorful produce, your favorite steamed vegetables or vegetable soup, stews or chili made with beans, chewy whole-grain breads and cereals…You get the picture. (These foods just happen to be loaded with nutrients as well.) High-fiber foods keep you fuller with fewer calories, and they help keep your digestive system working at its best—a double-whammy for getting rid of belly bulge. And “double-whammy” is such a fun word to use that I encourage you to try it out a few times this week!

4. Enjoy some yogurt.
Probiotics, the healthful bacteria found in yogurt and other fermented foods, have been proven to help reduce belly fat. In a recent study in Finland, new mothers who took probiotic supplements averaged smaller waist circumferences—and lower body fat in general—than those who didn’t take probiotic supplements. And while the topic is still controversial, studies have found that eating lots of calcium-rich dairy foods like yogurt may increase overall weight loss. It’s why I eat Greek yogurt and drink my Shakeology DAILY!!

5. Don’t forget to eat.
Tempted to lower your daily calorie count by skipping meals? Don’t. Seriously, I cannot tell you how many women tell me that they don’t know why they aren’t losing weight; since they only eat maybe 1 time a day!!! EXCUSE MOI??????

Going hungry can raise your levels of the stress-related hormone cortisol, which research has found can increase belly fat even in otherwise thin women. And eating too infrequently can lower your metabolism and energy levels, while increasing the chance that you’ll get too hungry and decide to chuck your meal plan entirely. If you’re eating the right foods, regular meals and snacks will keep your body fueled while you’re working toward that strong core. You MUST eat!!! It’s the ONLY way! 😉

6. Drink more fluids. Hydration is important when you’re on a fitness plan, but drinking plenty of water has particular benefits for your midsection. It helps keep your stomach full, so you don’t overeat, and it helps flush out excess sodium to prevent belly bloating. (Eating more potassium-rich foods, such as tomatoes and bananas, will also help in this area.) Plain ol’ H20 can’t be beat, but you can also switch it up with flavored waters, iced tea, and anything else you like to drink that isn’t full of sweeteners. How much do you need? The old rule of 8 glasses a day is a good start, but everyone is different: drink more if you’re exercising or it’s hot out, and drink less if you’re running to the bathroom every 5 minutes.  I will challenge you to drink the recommended amount for fit individuals; 1/2 your body weight in ounces!! So for someone who is 150 lbs; they would need to drink at least 75 oz of water every day! Or a gallon if you are really up to the challenge!

7. …With two exceptions.
It’s time to cut down on those mood-altering substances, coffee and alcohol. Too much caffeine raises your cortisol levels and can impair your sleep, which can lower the production of fitness-promoting hormones. Meanwhile, the proverbial “beer belly” isn’t just the result of extra calories—alcohol actually makes it more difficult for your body to metabolize carbs and fat. Booze also stimulates your appetite and lowers your inhibitions, which can lead to bingeing. The best road to flat abs is no alcohol at all, but if you really like a drink now and then, just have one at a time (and no more than a few a week), and stay away from higher-calorie beers and sugary mixed drinks. Something to seriously consider especially over the weekends, am I right or am I right? (you are SO smart! lol)

If you add these rules to your fitness plan, you’re sure to see faster improvements in your midsection. Of course, there’s an added bonus to eating this way: it’ll keep you healthier, too. That may not be as big an inducement as great abs, but that’s just  for free.

Do you need an added incentive? I have a BUSY MOM’S support group starting first of the month and welcome you to message me today for info on joining. You can succeed and have time for your family AND save money along the way! All thrown in for extra bonus!! 😉

Email me at: http://www.spazzykay@gmail.com

Are You Living in YOUR Moments?

Funny how fast time flies by, don’t you think?

I find that the more I think I have it all together, the harder life laughs at me and changes the scenery!

You know you agree! 😉

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Anyway, yes, my daughter has now graduated from high school, after fighting through the last part of this past year. A funny story she shared with us about our two overseas moves in the last five years (for those of you unfamiliar with my story; yes, this happened and a big reason my daughter was so far behind in her schooling this final year!); was when one of her teachers asked the senior students to write out some advice tips for the incoming Freshmen class. (how freaking cool is that teacher, by the way??)

My daughter (bless her sarcastic heart; she may just take after her mum after all!) wrote the following advice: “Make good friends and get ahead on your credits and grades because you never know if your family may move overseas.”

okay, I thought it was hilarious…you may not agree but it’s all good!

I find that life can really turn your world upside down and then give you a good shaking still from time to time. Have you ever experienced this before? (hint: if you’re ALIVE and actually doing something in your life, then this is a given)

There is no way around it or out of it but you darned sure better move your ass and give it your much needed attention! I think it’s at these times in our lives that we are most vulnerable and need to really be vigilant about who we surround ourselves with. Your attitude about your situation (whatever they may be; big or small) will weigh heavily on the side of the attitudes around you. Don’t believe it? Think about the 5 people you are closest to in your life. Now, think about their temperaments and points of views on life and all things in it. Then go ahead and try to tell me you don’t see eye to eye or believe most of the same, yourself.

Whether you realize this or not; it’s a fact. Maybe you’re the exception to this rule…but I highly doubt it!

My advice to you today is to surround yourself with positive people and teachings. Read Personal Development books to help you grow exponentially. Get out and do some activity to boost your heartrate. Lift weights to strengthen your weak areas. Learn to laugh at yourself in times of stress. Be the best person you could be for today.

Trust me; life goes by regardless.

You may as well feel happier and enjoy the ride.

What Are Your Excuses?????

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An invitation to start on your goals?

A “perfect day” “perfect time” “perfect everything” to happen first?

Any of these or any that you come up with later, will never happen.

The choice to get started on your goals starts with the simple decision to start….

 

NOW!!!

 

Maybe I sound like an overly hyped up self-help book.

Let me tell you a bit about what has prompted this topic today.

I’m away from home at the moment.

Far away.

Like as far away from my previous home as possible.  With the kids.  At my sister’s house. With my other sister and her family.

Need I say more?

It’s a bit insane, to say the least.  Then add in at least 2 or 3 kids a piece and you have some moments of complete chaos.

Oh sure, I could easily tell myself that this is just too hectic of a time to get in my workouts.  Cuz, honestly, where do I even do them?

And I could blame the fact that I’m not always the one cooking the meals on not being able to eat clean and stay on track along the way.

But I chose to NOT do any of these negative, sabotage-fueled practices.

I choose to succeed NO MATTER WHAT!

What?  But…but…but…

Yes, I said it.  I decided to commit and I will succeed!!  Here’s a brief day in my life for the past 10 days:

Wake up early (like 5 or 6 am cuz that’s how my sis does it!! OMG)…

Change into my exercise clothes before my brain realizes what is going on..(I know this is said in a joking style but I’m mostly serious)

Put my current fitness DVD into my laptop drive (currently, I’m doing Focus T25 which is helpful since the equipment is either nada or close to nada)

and start my workout.

Granted, it’s still dark in the room cuz hubby and youngest son are still asleep in this guest room (not really a “guest” room per se, but my sister’s room) but I warned them the night before and they are used to my practices at this point…

The space I work out in?  It’s a tiny little section of the bedroom and I have to be careful when turning to not fall over my suitcases on the ground; bump into the bedpost or hit my head on the corner of the wall next to me, but I do it.

And there’s also the matter of the door closed just behind me…praying that everyone on the outside of the door realizes by the morning music and Shaun T’s voice that they would be better off not opening the door until I’m good and ready to leave…

Anyway, all these obstacles aside, I get it done.  It’s 25 minutes, so time is on my side.   But guess what?  Do you know how I feel when Shaun yells “time”?

AWESOME!!!!

I actually smile and feel like a winner as I’m stretching with Shaun (cuz you should NEVER EVER EVER miss your stretch) and my day is always better for it.

Now, tell me again, what are your excuses???????

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If You’re Happy and You Know It!

Happy Wednesday to you!!

Today I wanted to share with you the whole concept of being where you are today.  Are you happy with your current financial, fitness, relationship, time-management, stress, etc levels?  Why or why not?

I have to say that I’m a recovering “blamer” to many of these areas.  For example, when I wasn’t happy with my fitness or weight; I’d simply blame it on something or someone else.  “I don’t have the time to workout like I want.”  “My kids take all of my time.”  “I don’t have a private cook or money to buy all the pre-cooked foods to follow a specific plan.”

Whatevs.

Excuses are just that; excuses.  Nothing more and nothing less.  They should actually be changed to “blah blah blah blah blah.”…because it accomplishes the same result.

NOTHING!!!!!

Did you know that you are exactly where you are today; who you are today and with your current situations you are with today because of the choices and habits you’ve made up to this point?

The first time I read that piece of information, I pretty much threw a fit.  Seriously.  MY FAULT???  How dare you blame ME!

But in all honesty, once I got over feeling blamed, I realized it was completely true!

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So, what to do?  I guess after you come to the realization that this is true for you too (many times, peeps NEVER get past this and linger in unhappy mode all their lives!), the choice is up to you on which path to take.

The current path that is making your unhappy and not taking responsibility…

 

or the path to change it up and make things happen.  Now, granted, a few changes won’t be that apparent in a few days or weeks time, but keep it up and that will compound to making HUGE changes over time.  Trust me, consistency does pay off.  If you keep plugging away (kinda like the tortoise and snail do); you’ll always reach your destination.  But, if you hurry up and get frustrated then stop and go into another direction; time after time, you will NEVER get anywhere!!!

Am I right; or am I right?  Bingo!!!

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How Passionate Are YOU?

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Happy Monday…now that it’s over! lol

I had some time this weekend to read some personal development awesomeness by John Maxwell.  I find it so sad that many people go into job fields that they don’t even enjoy just because it was forced upon them; or at least something they were lead to believe was their “best choice”.  How do you get up in the morning to go to a job that you HATE?  I mean, I don’t like to be a negative-Nelly on any topic but this would drive me insane!

I was fortunate to have found my passion at a young age, just due to the fact that I was fighting with issues that made me unhappy and in searching for answers; I found my passion.  Who knew that I’d love all things fitness and health related?  But I do!

Take for instance, my queue on my Netflix channel.  I just finished watching “Forks Over Knives”…(look at my previous post regarding that gem!) and yesterday I finally caught “Fat, Lazy and Almost Dead”…wow!!! Another awesome documentary!  This one about an Australian man who comes to America, fat and sick, on a mission to get healthy.  He decides to do a 60 day juice fast and the results are spectacular!! He loses almost a hundred pounds and ends up getting off all of his medications…and there were almost a dozen bottles when he started!  He also motivated many others to do the same; including a severely obese man with the same skin disease as the star.  This man, (Phil) starts the very same cleanse and also loses an amazing amount of weight (well over a hundred pounds) and clears up all of his health issues and medications too!

Does this interest everyone?  Not so much.  I guess to most, it’s not really “exciting” to watch but I am completely engaged in doing whatever I can to stay healthy and help others do the same.

So, be bold and find what truly inspires you!! Remember, if you are passionate about something in life and work in that field; you never have to be pushed to go to work or work harder ever!!

Imagine that!! Now…for my guilty pleasure; watching “The Voice” with my kids. See?  I’m not that odd!!! 🙂