Stressed, Overwhelmed and Anxious? Oh MY!

I’m going to be honest with you today!

I’m growing tired of talking about fitness, health and eating all the time.

You probably didn’t expect that from me, did you? Well, honestly, neither did I! But the last few years have been quite interesting and brought me to a realization this past year that I wanted to share with you.

I know that it’s important to take care of our health and I know you already understand that too. The truth of the matter is, I always figured that the more I talked about my journey and tips on these health and weight loss goals, then others would eventually start to live the life too.

But I started to notice a rather common pattern, instead. Many people would be excited to start a healthy plan – only to fall short somewhere along the line.

Was it their fault? Was it mine? What were the missing links between starting on a said goal and actually achieving (not to mention, maintaining) that said goal?

I then began to research what was different from where I am today versus who I was when I began this crazy ride 25+ years ago. What had changed from then to now?

Or a more realistic question would like be, what HASN’T changed since then?

There seems to be one underlying common issue for our ups and downs throughout life. It’s called, “LIFE”…
Or more accurately, STRESSES OF LIFE.

So why would I continue to push health and fitness tips and plans with those who continue to come up against another one of life’s roadblocks, time and again? No, I would need to restructure the way I work with my clients and customers based on their personal stress levels, struggles and common barriers instead.

The result? My own personal plan for eliminating our stress levels and finally getting to the core of our best selves.

Are you ready to cut the crap and start to live your life, once and for all? Stop second guessing if you should be doing more of “this” or less of “that”. Stop putting all of your focus on one area and then being frustrated when that doesn’t turn out exactly as you’d planned.

Are you currently dealing with any of the following:

  • caring too much about what others think of you
  • dealing with toxic people daily
  • procrastinating on things you know you ‘should’ do
  • feeling overwhelmed with all that needs to be done
  • wishing you could just fast forward until the next weekend or vacation
  • not knowing what you really enjoy anymore
  • feeling as though the person you used to be is “lost”
  • feeling like a failure when you continue to sabotage yourself in any goal you set
  • too embarrassed to share your true thoughts and shortcomings because you think that nobody else will understand
  • thinking that success and happiness is only for those who “earn” it

The thing about life is that, nothing will ever truly turn out exactly as we planned. We can either accept that fact and find another way; or just give up and throw our hands up as we look for the next magical solution. (which doesn’t exist) But before you decide to give up completely; there is another solution…and it’s so much simpler than we have been making it out to be!

Are you ready? The 5-Day Back to Basics challenge starts next week!

 

I’ve put together an amazing program that will not only help you lessen your stress levels, but it will also help you to succeed more than before. Sounds crazy, right? I know! I thought the same thing at first, until I started to implement these strategies into my life.

I cannot imagine living and thinking the way I used to because it brought me anxiety, unhappiness and lots and lots of stress.

No thank you!

I’m inviting you to join me for this first official launch next week! It’s FREE, it’s only 5 days and it’s easy – what is there to lose? (except stress and doing too much with less than stellar results!)

You can sign up right here (it takes less than a minute!)
JOIN THE 5-DAY FREE BACK TO BASICS CHALLENGE!!!

As a THANK YOU, I will send you my first video and assignment starting Monday, March 6th that will help you find your own success formula. There are no “one size fits all” ways to succeed but these little tips will show you how you can start now.

Ready? I’m so excited for this! I know it will be worth the few daily check-ins as it sets the tone for the rest of our lives!  Just click HERE and get the info you need to see what’s in store for this challenge and sign up in less than 30 seconds!

Enjoy your day and looking forward to helping you succeed more in the coming year than ever before!

Your friend,

Kathy P.
http://www.kathyprofitness@gmail.com

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Choose to live a happy life!

How would you describe yourself to others?

Would you be complimentary with your words about yourself?

Would you describe yourself as you would a best friend?

Or would you describe yourself  “less than” average and apologize for your shortcomings?

Most of us would fit the latter personalities. Why do we have such low self esteem and acceptance of ourselves?

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It can be a challenge to love ourselves and to to be our own biggest cheerleaders, right? It took me years to finally be proud of the person I am and take care of myself as I know I deserve. The more that I accept myself and think kindly of myself; the better I become at setting the time aside to workout and eat right! The standards are set much higher if we believe in our best selves.

I used to compare myself to everyone around me. People I knew; people I saw but didn’t know; people in magazines and on t.v, friends, family and just anyone who I could conjure up at any given moment.

The problem with what I was doing was that I compared myself unfairly and in unrealistic terms. These comparisons were always unattainable and only served to make me feel “less than” and “not quite good enough”. Not surprisingly, this left me with low self confidence and self worth.

When we feel this low about ourselves, our abilities and our accomplishments; it’s not uncommon to self sabotage.

Overeating, anxiety, depression; are just a few examples of what happens when we put extreme levels of pressure on being someone or something that is never possible.

We all know that “perfect” doesn’t exist and yet we are guilty of beating ourselves up constantly for NOT being “perfect”.

What?

Before I started my at-home business as a Beachbody coach, I fought to find time and balance in my life. As a busy, working mother; I was always running from one task to the next. Getting everything done in the time I had set for myself was nearly impossible but for whatever reason, I felt it my duty to complete or else beat myself up for failing to do so.

I had three young children, a husband and too many items on my “to do” list. Even with an assistant, these unreasonable tasks I had placed on myself could not be done in the time expected from myself. I would not put this much pressure on my best friend…and yet, like most of the women I know who suffer from these same issues; we expect we are super-human.

In response to dealing with the strains and expectations (which ultimately fed my “failure” mentality), I would then have a food-binge to deal with the stress. I then would fall into the cycle of feeling depressed about my lack of self control and willpower which lead to believing I was a complete loser. Depression, anxiety and negative body images were some of the results of this self-defeating process. Can you relate?

It helps to know that we are not alone and there is always a way. Finding support and balance is key. Staying on track and learning how to pick back up again when we fall down (which will happen along the way); is key to overcoming the issues of our past. There are so many things that we have no control over in life; yet, we allow them to affect us negatively anyway. What gives?

Have you ever been guilty of one or more of these issues:

Wondering what other people think of you? Wondering how other people get to live like they do and believing you have “less than” everyone around you? Wondering why you are “stuck” in a situation when others seem to be living so much “happier” and with less stress than you do? Wonder why others can look and feel so good about themselves; when you feel completely exhausted and unable to keep up with the demands of day to day life? Wonder why you can’t get yourself “together”? Wish you had a job as successful and joyous as “others” do? Wish you made as much money as others? Wish that your cars were as nice as others you are watching? Wish that your home or the location of your home was as nice as someone else? Wish you had better education or success as someone else?

and on and on this list can go.

There are no end to comparisons. What we do not realize, however, is that while we sit and wonder about all of these “happier and more successful” people we are comparing our lives to…there are many others who are doing the same with us.

Don’t think it’s true? Well, you’d be wrong! There will always be someone who feels less valuable than you do. There will always be others who feel like they have less than you do. There will be others who wonder what you have and how you do what you do for your life.

Comparing ourselves to anyone else only makes us feel insecure, miserable, frustrated, depressed, “not good enough” and we feel that we cannot be happy with the things that we have right now. We feel we can’t be “happy” until we reach some magical goal or milestone. This is definitely not the way to life our best lives.

Since I work on my own now, I have to work on myself too. I read books, listen to audio, watch videos, listen to trainings…and what I’ve learned is that we are all very much alike in most ways. We deal with similar issues. We struggle in similar ways. No matter where we are or who we are; we will not be satisfied unless we learn to be thankful for all that we have.

Life is a journey and it has many ups and downs and it’s a process. I believe it’s important to learn how to be happy and be grateful for everything we have right now even if we haven’t reached our ultimate “goal” yet.

Striving to be like someone else or look like someone else is never attainable. Striving to be our best and using others as motivation is fine as long as they’re someone who has done something similar to you, or has a similar body to you.

We need to be responsible for ourselves; how we choose to live, what we choose to do and who we choose to use as “inspiration”, “motivation” or as a “role model”.

There will always be external influences that have the potential to destroy our self worth if we allow them to. This is why I believe that many issues we have are internal. If someone or something is making you feel bad or causes you to have low self esteem then it’s important to have a look at what could be causing it – most of the time it is coming from within.

My goal for my life now as a role model in my family; a leader in my team and an inspiration to others whom I don’t even know yet, is to be positive and reach as many people as possible so that I can help deliver this message of hope and acceptance to everyone. I also want my team and my family to do the same for others in their lives. It starts with us. We can empower others and we can help them to share the same message with others. It’s not an easy task but it’s what has become my passion and I know it’s worth the efforts indeed.

The biggest accomplishment in my life is self love and if I can somehow help others achieve this then I’m going to do it and I won’t stop no matter what!

Self worth and self love can only be achieved from within, it can’t be gained from others.

Everything we choose to do should be from a place of LOVE, not hate. I love myself and my body so I choose to exercise and eat healthy so I can be my best and feel my best. I want others to feel this way too – however that’s achieved because we’re all different and what makes me happy is different for someone else.

Love who you are now and realize that this is a process and the goal is to ultimately be HAPPY – whether you exercise and eat healthy food or not…. you should always do things that make you happy, not what you think will please others.

It’s not about “perfection”, it’s not about comparison, it’s not about being ‘the best” – it’s about doing my best and being “my best”, and loving everything that I am – flaws and all. – This is what makes us human and unique after all!

Who’s with me? Share this message if you care ❤

xoxo

What’s my age again? Stop fearing this number!

I am going to be completely honest again with you…cuz when am I NOT???

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I cannot stand when people lie about their age. Our age is a number. It doesn’t define us or say anything about us except for the fact of how long we have been on this earth.

Period.

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So why lie? We can look older or younger depending on many factors. Our genes have a huge role in how old or young we “look” to others; as well as how our day to day habits weigh in on our bodies and in our lives. Smokers will look older. Those who have less than healthy habits and lifestyles will tend to “age” sooner in their appearances too. Have you ever heard of metabolic age? \

This is number will give you an idea of what kind of physical health your body is in using your metabolic rate or BMR.

If you rate lower than you actual age in years, it means your body and your habits are working for you. However, if your metabolic age is higher than your true age in years, it may mean that you are having some health problems or may need to change your eating and fitness habits asap.

We find your metabolic age by calculating your activity level, genetics, height, weight and actual age in years. You get your metabolic age when you compare your basal metabolic rate with the basal metabolic rate of your age group.

Birds of a feather, you say? I say that I want to stand out from the rest of the crowd, can you agree with me here?  For example, I shared a story this past year about a woman I met in the gym locker room. I was waiting to teach my Insanity LIVE class and had sat down on a bench to check my online messages (cuz I run my biz mobile-y and this is something you will see me do throughout my day); when a woman walked into the locker room. She was poised, confident and had great posture and great energy. I only noticed her through my peripheral vision and hearing her movements but I didn’t look up to stare in any way. She opened her locker and proceeded to get her things together.

“Are you a fitness instructor?” She asked me. Startled, I looked up to smile at her. She had a short, sporty hair that was completely white and she carried an athlete’s body. I noticed her arms were clearly “cut” and defined and she was moving around effortlessly as she put items into her gym bag and took other items out to use.

“Yes,” I responded, “I’ve been teaching for over 25 years.”

“25 years???” she asked in surprise. “That’s amazing! My daughter recently became certified and is teaching a few classes per week too.”

“That’s great!” I said, “I have been teaching since before my kids were born and all the way through their pregnancies and births. It’s definitely a passion.”

I then asked, “What does your daughter teach?” and she went on to explain the varieties of classes her daughter is looking to lead. I then added, “She definitely has a great role model in you.”

That’s when this woman started to share her story; as I sat there on the bench, stunned into silence.

She explained that 25 years earlier, she had been a heavy smoker. The company she was working for at the time, had a track installed for the employees to use as a means to move more. She attempted to walk one lap and was completely taken back at how she would have to stop every few feet to catch her breath. This realization shifted something within her and she decided then and there to quit smoking and begin walking the track every weekday.

Over the next few years, she progressed in her fitness levels and decided to join the local gym. She shared how much she had to learn but wasn’t going to allow any excuses to slow her down from becoming stronger and more healthy. This woman was seriously fit. I could swear she was a lifelong athlete by the looks of her.

She then told me her age.

Eighty-four. I nearly fell off of the bench. I just stared at her, my eyes bulging out of my head, I’m sure; and my mouth wide open in shock.

“You’re EIGHTY FOUR??” I echoed in response. She smiled and nodded, apparently used to this reaction and went on to share that her daughter who was “new” to teaching group exercise classes was 62. That did it for me. She became my new role model for when I’m 84. I’m more than certain, even with her previous years of smoking habits, that her metabolic age is clearly more than 15 years younger than her actual age.

I could have sworn she was no older than 60 by looking at her. Seriously.

So that leaves me with what my true age in years are…I am 44 years young and I am proud to tell anyone if asked. Be proud of your age by doing what you need to do in order to create a healthier and more active lifestyle. We are only as good as our worst habits, right?

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If you want to figure out your metabolic age, he website Pure LifeStyle makes it very easy for you to figure it out. Want some help in reaching your goals in fitness, health and overall happiness? Then fill in the application below and I’ll contact you on some options to consider. You won’t know unless you start, right?