Choose to live a happy life!

How would you describe yourself to others?

Would you be complimentary with your words about yourself?

Would you describe yourself as you would a best friend?

Or would you describe yourself  “less than” average and apologize for your shortcomings?

Most of us would fit the latter personalities. Why do we have such low self esteem and acceptance of ourselves?

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It can be a challenge to love ourselves and to to be our own biggest cheerleaders, right? It took me years to finally be proud of the person I am and take care of myself as I know I deserve. The more that I accept myself and think kindly of myself; the better I become at setting the time aside to workout and eat right! The standards are set much higher if we believe in our best selves.

I used to compare myself to everyone around me. People I knew; people I saw but didn’t know; people in magazines and on t.v, friends, family and just anyone who I could conjure up at any given moment.

The problem with what I was doing was that I compared myself unfairly and in unrealistic terms. These comparisons were always unattainable and only served to make me feel “less than” and “not quite good enough”. Not surprisingly, this left me with low self confidence and self worth.

When we feel this low about ourselves, our abilities and our accomplishments; it’s not uncommon to self sabotage.

Overeating, anxiety, depression; are just a few examples of what happens when we put extreme levels of pressure on being someone or something that is never possible.

We all know that “perfect” doesn’t exist and yet we are guilty of beating ourselves up constantly for NOT being “perfect”.

What?

Before I started my at-home business as a Beachbody coach, I fought to find time and balance in my life. As a busy, working mother; I was always running from one task to the next. Getting everything done in the time I had set for myself was nearly impossible but for whatever reason, I felt it my duty to complete or else beat myself up for failing to do so.

I had three young children, a husband and too many items on my “to do” list. Even with an assistant, these unreasonable tasks I had placed on myself could not be done in the time expected from myself. I would not put this much pressure on my best friend…and yet, like most of the women I know who suffer from these same issues; we expect we are super-human.

In response to dealing with the strains and expectations (which ultimately fed my “failure” mentality), I would then have a food-binge to deal with the stress. I then would fall into the cycle of feeling depressed about my lack of self control and willpower which lead to believing I was a complete loser. Depression, anxiety and negative body images were some of the results of this self-defeating process. Can you relate?

It helps to know that we are not alone and there is always a way. Finding support and balance is key. Staying on track and learning how to pick back up again when we fall down (which will happen along the way); is key to overcoming the issues of our past. There are so many things that we have no control over in life; yet, we allow them to affect us negatively anyway. What gives?

Have you ever been guilty of one or more of these issues:

Wondering what other people think of you? Wondering how other people get to live like they do and believing you have “less than” everyone around you? Wondering why you are “stuck” in a situation when others seem to be living so much “happier” and with less stress than you do? Wonder why others can look and feel so good about themselves; when you feel completely exhausted and unable to keep up with the demands of day to day life? Wonder why you can’t get yourself “together”? Wish you had a job as successful and joyous as “others” do? Wish you made as much money as others? Wish that your cars were as nice as others you are watching? Wish that your home or the location of your home was as nice as someone else? Wish you had better education or success as someone else?

and on and on this list can go.

There are no end to comparisons. What we do not realize, however, is that while we sit and wonder about all of these “happier and more successful” people we are comparing our lives to…there are many others who are doing the same with us.

Don’t think it’s true? Well, you’d be wrong! There will always be someone who feels less valuable than you do. There will always be others who feel like they have less than you do. There will be others who wonder what you have and how you do what you do for your life.

Comparing ourselves to anyone else only makes us feel insecure, miserable, frustrated, depressed, “not good enough” and we feel that we cannot be happy with the things that we have right now. We feel we can’t be “happy” until we reach some magical goal or milestone. This is definitely not the way to life our best lives.

Since I work on my own now, I have to work on myself too. I read books, listen to audio, watch videos, listen to trainings…and what I’ve learned is that we are all very much alike in most ways. We deal with similar issues. We struggle in similar ways. No matter where we are or who we are; we will not be satisfied unless we learn to be thankful for all that we have.

Life is a journey and it has many ups and downs and it’s a process. I believe it’s important to learn how to be happy and be grateful for everything we have right now even if we haven’t reached our ultimate “goal” yet.

Striving to be like someone else or look like someone else is never attainable. Striving to be our best and using others as motivation is fine as long as they’re someone who has done something similar to you, or has a similar body to you.

We need to be responsible for ourselves; how we choose to live, what we choose to do and who we choose to use as “inspiration”, “motivation” or as a “role model”.

There will always be external influences that have the potential to destroy our self worth if we allow them to. This is why I believe that many issues we have are internal. If someone or something is making you feel bad or causes you to have low self esteem then it’s important to have a look at what could be causing it – most of the time it is coming from within.

My goal for my life now as a role model in my family; a leader in my team and an inspiration to others whom I don’t even know yet, is to be positive and reach as many people as possible so that I can help deliver this message of hope and acceptance to everyone. I also want my team and my family to do the same for others in their lives. It starts with us. We can empower others and we can help them to share the same message with others. It’s not an easy task but it’s what has become my passion and I know it’s worth the efforts indeed.

The biggest accomplishment in my life is self love and if I can somehow help others achieve this then I’m going to do it and I won’t stop no matter what!

Self worth and self love can only be achieved from within, it can’t be gained from others.

Everything we choose to do should be from a place of LOVE, not hate. I love myself and my body so I choose to exercise and eat healthy so I can be my best and feel my best. I want others to feel this way too – however that’s achieved because we’re all different and what makes me happy is different for someone else.

Love who you are now and realize that this is a process and the goal is to ultimately be HAPPY – whether you exercise and eat healthy food or not…. you should always do things that make you happy, not what you think will please others.

It’s not about “perfection”, it’s not about comparison, it’s not about being ‘the best” – it’s about doing my best and being “my best”, and loving everything that I am – flaws and all. – This is what makes us human and unique after all!

Who’s with me? Share this message if you care ❤

xoxo

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Will you run with me in 2016?

Every day we wake up to a blank slate of a day; ready to be filled in by what we choose and what we decide is most important to us. Have you ever sat daydreaming about your perfect world? Have you ever wondered if you could truly amount to more than what and who you are today?

I am going to tell you that I believe you can. I believe that we all can. What’s the hang up? Sadly, it’s ourselves. We tend to believe what we’ve learned from our past results and failures. We base our success on what we haven’t yet achieved. We stop before we have ever truly begun. It’s sad, and I hear it from so many others now that I am pushing beyond my own limitations.

Think about it. What would your “perfect day” in your “perfect life” look like  to you?

What time would you wake up each day? What would you do first each day? Where would you live and who are you surrounded by? What are your work hours? What do you consider your successes?

These are just a few of the blank sheets you can fill in and you can start it today.

A new year is upon us…again. A new year to start with big goals that have haunted you before and yet you’ve been too afraid to start because of your past.

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Believe me, I can relate with those fears. And I can relate with big goals and big dreams for my life and my family’s lives. In reality, we are the only person who is holding us back. It’s time for us to push for more; to show ourselves that we are capable of so much more than we have become complacent with. Are you tired of being “tired”? Do you believe without a shadow of a doubt that you were destined for more? Do you believe you can somehow succeed in every way you have dreamt about before? Well, I am right here with you and I am ready to blow the roof off this coming year too! As I look back at 2015, I realize that I have grown in many ways and come far in my beliefs, in helping my customers succeed in major weight loss and fitness goals. I have worked with others in learning how to truly believe in their capabilities and in turn, it’s helped me believe more in my own. I believe we all work together, and yet we are only responsible for our own successes or failures.

The goals I have for 2016 are so big that they do honestly scare me. But it’s that kind of “scare” that can easily be felt as excitement and a sheer sense of awe and wonder. I have been playing it “safe” for much too long now and I am looking to focus on throwing off every bit of doubt and fear and diving headfirst into the success pool!

I am creating simple and duplicable systems to share with my team. I want to build an empire and have already laid out the groundwork. I know that I can easily stay where I am today and be “content” enough with my income; my drive and my goals…but I cannot accept that as my dream come true.

My dream come true looks like this: I see a team of women, just like me; who are busy, and driven and love their families. I see us working together on empowering other women to become successful in not only their bodies, health and fitness, but in their lives and in their daily successes. I see us coming together and braving the uncertainties of building a successful business to help others in the same way we are being helped. In doing so, I see my family being blessed for their patience and faith in my perseverance in a “better way” and a life of freedom to be healthy, happy and able to give to others as freely as we wish.

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Are you wondering why I am sharing this with you today? Because I want to ask you a question, is this something you can relate with:

Are you are a go getter?
Are you driven?
Are you motivated for greatness?
Are you independent?
Are you into health and fitness?
Do you believe you are worthy of something greater than where you are today?
Do you have the drive to build a life by your own design?
Do you want to fire your boss?
D0 you want to work from home?
Do you want to wake up and decide how to spend your dream days?
Then I am looking for you! I want you on my team! I want to build this empire together and dream bigger than we’ve ever dreamed before.
I am currently accepting applications for my 2016 New Coach Training Group!
This will be a 3 part training system that will last a total of 3 months which will help you start from a new coach and move towards a business owner and leader using systems and tools that are helping coaches succeed in this business every single day. It’s a choice to do or not to do. You will have access to a system that is easily duplicable and simple to follow. You will learn to manage your time effectively. There are daily assignments, which can be done at your pace. There will be weekly focused group calls, there will be 1:1 calls and there will be access to our team resources and support group.  My goal is to help you, as a new health and fitness coach, succeed as soon as possible. I am not looking for those who need a “boss”; I am looking for women who have a vision of something greater and want to run with me in creating that reality.
If this sounds like you, please fill in the application below to be considered for 1 of these 5 exclusive spots.
Don’t wait to commit.  Don’t put off what you want now and continue to dream about it later. I am running and only looking for those who are ready to run with me. You don’t want to miss out!  Plus, even though it’s the holidays, you want to get signed up in enough time to review the new coach training material and have your game plan ready for the start on January 4th.  
You are meant for something bigger and greater and there’s only one way for you to make that a reality. Successful people are not people that wish for it, they are people that work for it. They are willing to sacrifice some now, in order to achieve more later. Let’s get this started. Let’s make 2016 the best of the best of what is to come! Will you join me?