Reach your goals – once and for all

What’s the secret to success? I struggled for many years in my desire to achieve my health, fitness and weight loss goals; as well as business, personal and success goals – only to be deterred time and time again. Have you ever struggled before in this way?

I often wondered ‘when do the results finally happen’ and ‘why are there people that we know who continuously achieve their goals while others struggle in their own self-defeating patterns?’

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Now I’m not saying that I am a success story in these areas; but I have learned many lessons over the past 20 or so years and thought it might help someone to hear what’s worked for me.

Think for a moment that exciting feeling when you begin something new. It may seem as though you have the secret to finally figuring it all out and the sky’s the limit in this phase. And why not? At this point of our journey, everything is fresh, new and sparkly (that’s my description but I think you get the point!). It’s at this point when we haven’t yet run into any challenges or encountered any hurdles so it can almost seem a bit skewed from reality. Nonetheless, we set out with our new plans and vow to change our lives; change the world and take on whatever may have held us back in the past.

Everything seems possible in this moment and it’s at this time (whether we are embarking on a new fitness/health journey; starting a new business venture; beginning a new relationship; etc) that we must decide WHY we have chosen this challenge/change. What is so important about these specific goals and what needs to change in our lives at this time in order to make this happen? You may be wondering what any of this has to do with starting something new. The first few steps help to set the foundation for changes and the new success that we so desire. Think for a moment, if we don’t start with the WHY; then what changes from today? If we consider the fact that adding changes; saying ‘yes’ to anything different than what we are currently doing, we will ultimately be saying ‘no’ to other areas of our lives that may or may not be acceptable.

Once the reasons are set and we start moving forward, there will eventually come resistance. We will run into days when we don’t ‘feel’ like doing what we planned; we will run into days when unexpected surprises pop up and we need to juggle and deal with these surprises; we will run into days where we are overly stressed, tired or downright tired of going through the daily motions that seemed exciting in the beginning.

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It’s at this point of resistance that we make a decision; and it’s at this point of our journey that makes or breaks our success in the new plan. If we decide to give in to the resistance and slow down our progress (which usually means we are skipping our workouts/ eating on the fly/ passing on the new habits we set up for our success) then we are deciding that the results are not worth the sacrifice. Right? That’s pretty powerful if you sit and let it sink in. However, if we decide to push through the resistance and do what we planned on doing no matter what; (and this can seriously SUCK some days!) then we are making the decision to continue to fight for what we want to achieve irregardless of the struggle.

Now this part of the journey is actually another critical point that may seem uneventful; maybe even ‘boring’, but it’s going to make the most change of all. Doing what you said you’d do at the times when you don’t feel like it (or enter any excuses you’ve made here…no, they are not “reasons”) will actually be pushing your old bad habits further away. Imagine when you get up to do the workout or eat the meal when you could easily have passed it by because of your “excuses”; you are pushing through boundaries and setting a new “normal” for you to accept. This means that the next time an excuse pops up and you push forward again, you are quite literally, taking steps into unchartered and new success territories. Does that make sense? Because it’s kind of fabulous when you start to “get it” ūüėČ

The last and most crucial next step in forming lifelong habits is in changing old, negative thought patterns about ourselves. Most of us don’t believe that we are “worth” the time, energy, money it takes for us to reach our ultimate goals. If we are constantly berating ourselves; telling ourselves we aren’t worth it, we don’t need it as much as we thought or worse yet; that we are “ugly, stupid, fat, etc”…these are POISON to our results. The negativity we may have learned over the years will keep us stuck in our miserable states because we believe that we are less than anyone else in our lives. This is CRAP and needs to end today! If you have issues that are deep rooted from childhood or past experiences, I suggest searching for a reputable therapist to help you get beyond those issues. If your issues are simply from habits that you’ve created, it’s time to change your mindset and surround yourself with positive people, books, audio and lessons to create a better quality of self-acceptance and love.

The New Decade Begins!!

Knowing that when you put these practices into place, you will not only achieve new results..you will become obsessed with them because they feel fantastic! You are a beautiful, blessed and unique YOU and it’s time to take back your happiness and start to believe in yourself – once and for all. Do this, and the rest will start to fall into place. You will become the type of person whom you’ve always felt was “lucky” or “entitled”.

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How to freaking reach your goals

Your excuses are no longer valid…

Well, in all honesty, they were never truly valid anyway but we seem to believe that they are. Here is my Motivation Monday vlog and blog post; I know it will help you if you are serious!

 

 

Hey guys! Welcome to today’s motivation. I’m going to be making Motivational Monday posts in this blog post so feel free to FOLLOW and SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss your motivation; or your little¬†kickbutt¬†(I wanted to say KICKASS but held back) to this next week.

So what I want to talk to you today about is SETTING YOUR INTENTION on what you truly want in your life.

What are your goals?

What are you striving to achieve?

Now, most of us have something¬†waayyyy¬†out in the distance, that we hope and dream and wish that happen. That sounds¬†nice¬†in our minds and it makes us almost feel like we have a goal and we’re working towards something…

but unless we are actually setting up the steps to reach those goals; they are truly a dream and a fantasy.

So if you are tired of having these fantasies, I know, I got the the point in my life too where I was tired talking about it. Everyone I was around and that surrounded me in ¬†my life, were in the same boat. They were all talking about these¬†goals¬†and these¬†dreams; how they wanted to look and feel in their life, in their bodies, and in their minds. And yet they weren’t reaching it and it was always like they were stuck on that “hamster wheel”. As I was working out in the gym, I also got to that same point when I was on that treadmill and I felt that same feeling, like “this is where I’m stuck” … I’m stuck (not ON the treadmill technically but…); stuck in that momentum of just doing¬†enough¬†to stay in the same place. So it’s like you’re spinning your wheels and you’re just digging yourself deeper and deeper into where you are right now. So if you’re tired of doing this, listen, it’s not that difficult to move forward. You first just have to set the decision. Set it up that you are focused on a specific goal and write it down!

For me, I love to write things down (can you tell why I blog? LOL) because I know that there’s power in actually putting it down on paper. Whether you think about it or you dream about it, or you wish or you hope; that’s one thing. But you know what? It doesn’t complete itself until we write it down. Be creative with how you write it down. You can create something online and copy and print it off with your goals, you can just write it down on paper with your pen and I encourage you to post it up somewhere. Someplace you can see it every day. Post it in your bedroom, your bathroom, your car; you can even have sticky notes (post it notes) everywhere, to remind yourself; pointing towards that goal.

Then the next step is to¬†CREATE A PLAN.¬†Have an action plan towards reaching that goal. It’s one thing to write it down; after you dream about it and writing it down, but just looking at it and thinking about it some more isn’t going to make it happen. It’s like¬†wishing for¬†anything else in life. Wishing for the perfect life, wishing to find your passion in life and just sitting there on the couch day after day wishing and hoping and dreaming writing it down aren’t going to magically manifest into reality.

You need to put the steps into place. So what can you do? What are those steps that you need to do; and if you’re not sure, reach out and find out. There are tons of resources online; you can look on google for any type of information, YouTube is also a great forum to find the info you are searching for, reach out to someone you know that has succeeded in the same areas. By all means, reach out to someone, someplace or something that will help you find a focus, a goal and a plan.

Then PLAN YOUR PRIORITIES INTO EVERY DAY. 

Once you set that up, start to implement those steps into your day. Your day should be set up around your priorities. ¬†We all claim that we only have so much time. I hear people who don’t reach their goals say to me, “well that would be nice¬†but¬†I don’t have enough time.” “I’m busy.”

Guys, we are all busy!! We all have the same 168 hours every week. So let’s break it down for a minute; out of those 168, let’s say you work a “9 to 5” job so that takes up about 40 hours per week, right? Subtract that from your 168, and you’re left with 128. (I never stated I was good in math but I think I’ve got this time thing handled!) Now lets say you sleep 8 hours every night (I know, I’m being generous with some of you but this only proves my point better), so that subtracts another 56 hours from your week. 128-56=72.

Now say you’re eating a combined 2 hours per day, multiply that by 7 and you’re spending 14 hours per week eating. (Seems kind of crazy but it’s true!) Now 72-14=58.

Next, for me anyway, let’s say we are exercising about 30-60 minutes- 6 times per week. (you’ll need to add in at least 1 day of rest with that type of schedule!) So now let’s subtract those hours; 58-6=52.

We are left with 52 hours. We’ve counted up our work hours, our sleep hours, our eating time and our exercise hours. We are left with 52 hours a week. What else are you doing in those 52 hours? Now, obviously we drive, we have errands to do, grocery shopping, laundry, cooking and leisure time…but 52 HOURS to do these??? Something’s not right, Lucy! ūüėČ

Need to find out what’s going on in those missing hours? Take this practice challenge this week; take every hour you are awake until every hour you go to sleep and write down what you are doing within that hour. So for example; if you wake up at 6am, what are you doing at 6, 7, 8, 9, 10 all the way until you sleep? I guarantee you’ll be shocked at the time you may indeed be wasting in your day that you never thought much about. If you want to spend some mindless time online, watching t.v. or spending quality time with your loved ones, then for goodness sakes, PLAN THAT TIME OUT!! You probably don’t even realize how much of it you are already doing and not appreciating for what it’s worth.

Agree? Feel free to disagree too, I can take it! ūüėČ Any questions, shoot me a message at: www.spazzykay@gmail.com¬†