Movie Night with the Martian

Have you seen any good movies lately? I went out tonight with my two eldest kids and really had a great time. (not sure if they would agree as much with their “MOM” tagging along but we’ll just leave good enough alone!)  We decided to see “The Martian” together.


I have to say that the trailer for this movie didn’t really speak to me at first; but after hearing some rave reviews about the movie, I thought, what the heck?

The storyline and the feeling of it all made me want to stand up and applaud, cry my eyes out and feel as though I was in the story myself.

Not for the reasons you’d imagine – like the drama and the premise of the story line…

but more about the underlying meanings of the unfaltering human nature and drive that many of us forego in our day to day lives.

So for those of you who haven’t seen it or if you don’t know what it’s about; let me give you an outline of the story. (and no spoilers to worry about if you still want to see it). This is a story of a group of astronauts who travel to Mars and are on a mission that needs to be aborted earlier than expected, except that one of the astronauts is lost in a storm and left on Mars (assumed to be dead).

The true power comes not in the plot of how the story unfolds but in how we react to the situation at hand; every second, minute and day of our lives.

I have been obsessed with our mindsets; why some people stick to goals in life while others decide their goals are not worth the sacrifices and struggles it takes to reach those goals. In all reality, we are all pretty much the same. We have the same basic needs, struggles and wants. We have the same capabilities to believe in ourselves and what we want; or not. We can all achieve any goal we decide that we want bad enough to get after it but that doesn’t guarantee that all, or many at that, will persevere.

Now back to the movie; this astronaut would have been dead within hours or days if he hadn’t decided that there may be another way. He had to get over the initial shock of his situation and decide to fight like hell to make it no matter what. Why? Probably because he had no other option aside from giving up and dying and that can be a big motivating fact for most of us indeed. (Proof of this is after a doctors visit for those who are given a negative result of health or unwell and how they can make the changes in their foods and lifestyles that ordinarily they would not have)

I think of the many times I’ve become frustrated when things didn’t go the way I had expected, and I wanted to just give up and forget about it. . I think of the times when the goals I have are larger than the frustrations, so I dig in (after I calm down) and find another way or look for another solution to complete what needs to be done. How many times have you decided something wasn’t worth the headaches, sacrifices or stresses? Of course, if the goal isn’t enticing or important enough, chances are that not many (if any) of us would stay invested long enough to find a way.

So this astronaut first assumes defeat (much like we do when things, out of our control, seem to derail our best efforts) but the need for this man not to give up and die overshadows the enormity of his situation. Time after time,  he is hit by what we would consider the “end of it all” and yet you see him looking for another solution in the cracks. How many of us can truly say that we exhaust all areas of a situation before giving up? I know for myself, I had only known walking away at the first sign of struggle or disappointment.

Really? My ego had to be submerged so that I could actually deal head on with issues that arose unexpectedly. And this is not easy.

But what is powerful is how our minds can expand to look at all roadblocks as a detour. We can become better and more practiced if we learn to look for that underlying route or “plan b”. Finding humor in the moments that can make or break us, is what I love most and can change the negativity in my mind to finding a better way. I remember a metaphor that was shared by one of my previous gym managers’; he asked us what we would do if we were driving along on the highway one day and up ahead we see a car stopped in our lane. We naturally slow down but what would we do next? Would you come to a complete stop behind this car and just wait it out because this was our “plan”? Or would we find a solution like maybe going around the car and getting in another lane or even going over the car if needed. Because we don’t know for sure if that car is going to continue and we sure as heck shouldn’t allow someone or something else to determine our reality.

Matt Damon, who plays the astronaut left on Mars, shares that his first initial thought when he realized he was left on the planet was “I’m going to die” but then he immediately shifts that thought into, what are the most critical things I need to survive right now and how can I go about achieving those now with what I have and my strong areas?

This should be an area we are all required to learn or study at least once in our lives. Being defeated doesn’t mean the story is over. Being defeated in one way, just means we MUST find another way. And we keep on looking for more solutions until the correct one is found.

But only if we want the end result as bad as we say we do. 😉 


Can You Handle the TRUTH???

I decided to try out an experiment. My Facebook and other social media forums are shared info that are all based on my personality and style. I post what interests me; what I think will interest my friends and followers; and what will give value to others.

I don’t post negative comments.  I don’t post vulgar comments, pics, etc. My style is ME and I am proud of that.

But what happens if you post something clearly out of your realm and “norm”?  What happens to those posts?


Let me tell you what happens, they are the most POPULAR posts of all!!!  I am slightly amused (and a little disheartened) at my latest post that drew more attention than I was comfortable with at the time. Now, I decided to use it to show the value of what happened and what to pay attention to in your posts and in your life!

It all started when I was scrolling briefly through the newsfeed to see what was going on that day. (I usually do this for a few minutes and then get to what needs to be done) I saw a post that made me laugh and the girl who shared it didn’t seem the type to post this, but I clicked LIKE in response to it anyway.

That was my first mistake!

Immediately following the LIKE, I received a message from her. In it she wrote:

“Sorry to do this to you but…You should not have liked or commented! Now you have to pick 1) Damn diarrhea 2) Just used my boobs to get out of a speeding ticket 3) Anyone have a tampon, I’m desperate 4) How do you get rid of foot fungus 5) Why is nobody around when i am horny 6) No toilet paper, goodbye socks! Post with no explanations! Have fun! it’s a game, just wanna see what your FB friends think or comment. Please don’t be a party pooper!!”

O M G….was all I could say cuz this made me laugh out LOUD!!! 😉

Now, granted, there are games like these all the time on Facebook. Who remembers the darned giraffe profile pics? Dude, that was annoying!! And all of the crazy posts that make people scratch their heads but are just stemmed from a mass group message that asks the participants to post a specific quote regarding their birthdate, status, etc.

Well, I was not having any of this since it is a serious TIME WASTE and not conducive to my time spent on social media. (for those of you wondering why I say this; I use these forums for building value in others lives, helping people with their goals and to get my work done! NO time suck, here!)

The above post caught my attention because I had a epiphany to post something that was completely out of my “norm” and see what happens.

Well, first of all, I couldn’t figure out WHICH crazy comment to post. I contemplated the diarrhea post but that was just disgusting. I also considered the foot fungus post but ewwwwww!!!! So, instead of sounding like a dirty “potty mouth” lol; I opted for the same post that I LIKED in the first place…..

Just used my boobs to get out of a speeding ticket (which I would NEVER do, by the way!) lol

This was immediately pushed to the top of my timeline and in the news feeds because everyone was clicking LIKE or commenting “good for you!” or “OMG! That is NOT what I would think you would do, but okay” and the list went on.

and on and on and on

It went on for DAYS!!!! Imagine that!

And it wasn’t even a REAL post!

Which is why I decided to spend a few minutes today to share with you the importance of being true to YOU.   Don’t post what will get you attention just for the sake of attention (unless, of course you were testing out an experiment like I was) 😉

Which leads me to my final thought for today; don’t believe anything you hear and only half of what you see. (do you remember that awesome quote?) This means that everything you read on Facebook, Twitter, etc, isn’t always the truth. Don’t take for granted that there is 100% truth to anything unless you research and know for fact. This will only keep you protected from stepping into minefield of trouble and giving out the wrong impression to others.

Unless, that is your whole point for being on social media in the first place…and to that, I will choose to UN-click your “show in newsfeed”….

Just saying